How to size blind

Size Blinding people with your confidence

Channel your inner Beyoncé, and Size BlindPeople!

Why do we all aspire to be the perfect airbrushed women in today’s media? If you really take the time to think about it, what is it about you that needs to become this fictional caricature of real life?

We are grown women, with our own minds and the ability to think logically, I know you know these pictures are doctored and edited. I know you understand that these women don’t actually look that flawless in real life. So why do we measure our self worth, aspirations, achievements and basic appearance against them?

I have a theory; it’s not what you want to look like that is really pushing your buttons. Lets face it, who wants to be so thin that it hurts to sit down? Who in their right mind would want to go about our daily tasks feeling faint and on the verge of collapse?

It’s not that, It’s what you want to feel like that triggers this insatiable insecurity of inadequacy and self-deprecation.

What we appear to have missed in our grown up logical mind, is in each advert, editorial or picture the media is selling you the aspiration. They are selling you a “feeling” If I owned a fancy $10,000 purse Id be happy, I’d be successful, I’d be loved, I’d be accepted.

The bottom line is you wouldn’t, you’d just be you with a fancy purse and probably a huge overdraft! Its how that model looks to be feeling that we are trying to emulate, not what she looks like.

So this leads me to the biggest secret of them all. It's not how you look that counts its how you feel, how you carry yourself, how you display to the world that you are in control of you.

Regardless of shape and size we all have the ability to look our best, and of course a great dress or a splash of makeup helps, but its what is worn within that really shows.

We look how we feel. So focus on feeling great! Do you think that Beyoncé wakes up every morning thinking she looks flawless? I bet not! But she owns herself, She is confident. She shows us her swagger.

Do you really want to be judged on how you look? Or would you rather be judged for who you are? A great example of this was a lady who I worked with recently. I dressed her for a public speaking event. My client was concerned that she wasn’t going to look right, that she was going to be judged on her size and by what she wore, now of course it goes without saying that we gave her a killer outfit, but all that did was give her the ability to believe in her inner confidence and get her swagger on!

The people she presented herself to, now refer to my client as the bright, intelligent confident women who spoke eloquently with a great deal of composure. Because she was confident and was channeling her inner Beyoncé, she “size blinded” her audience with her confidence.

All we have to do is wear ourselves with confidence. Focus on your favorite bits of you. Tell yourself each morning as you walk out of your door, I’m confident, I own this! It’s a cliché to preach love yourself and others will love you, and I know how incredibly hard it is to even wrap your head around the concept of loving yourself. With a little work though you can totally fake it until you make it!

So regardless of what you are wearing, SizeBlind people with your confidence. It works I promise!